still not going great

I am trying to look for something positive to say and struggling. last week i had a phone call appointment with GP to discuss his sleeping habits or lack of them! as suggested by CAMHS i asked for stronger sleeping tablets, well because he is under 16 they won't give him sleeping tablets, only anti allergy ones with drowsiness side effects and these new ones are absolutely crap. he hasn't had more thab 2 hours sleep a night for over a week. this means he is super bad tempered. he says he is trying to sleep, and i believe him he looks exhausted but he is anxious about so much that he can't sleep. well i know how he feels!I don't really know who to turn to next, i will have to try GP again. one thing that has got teen really excited is his growth spurt, he is getting noticably taller at the moment, he must be heading towards 6ft now, i am going to buy a tape measure so we can find out is height!

the perfect storm

teen was sent home from school yesterday very very badly soiled. there are triggers which bring on soiling episodes and they all seem to have come together at the moment to cause him to be unwell, i am trying my best to support him and be positive to get through this period. TRIGGERS 1. cold, when its very cold or damp he tends to soil worse and its been a very nippy spell recently. keeping heating turned up and lots of warm drinks and food available. 2. stress. teen is worrying nhimself about lots of things, moving house, and not wanting to change schools but at same time not wanting to stay here, GCSE's he is worried he is going to fail when he knows he could pass if he hadn't missed so much school, he has a science exam tomorrow. and added to that really worrying about nhis soiling, whether it will ever get better, people at school noticing and hows it will effect his future. i am trying my best to reassure him, but he admits these things keep going over in his head preventing him from sleeping. 3 lack of sleep. between the worrying and the neighbours partying teen has really struggled to sleep. luckily he has had a really good sleep now., he fell asleep at 3pm yesterday, and other to get up for a shower at 4am, when he chatted about his worries, he then went back to sleep and is still sleeping now. so thats nearly 18 hours. i am trying to establish a good bedtime routine and get teen to stick to the rules, but he also knows i am here to share his worries with if he needs me. nothing i can do about neighbours, and although i want to assure him about move and trying to stay local for school that may prove out of my hands. i am going to keep him off school today and help him revise for his exam in morning but will have to discuss with school whether he can resit or alternatives so he doesn't feel like he has failed.

long poorly week

well teens been poorly all week with his soiling, tummy cramps etc. the cold always seems to make him worse. doesn't help we seem to live in coldest house ever. even with central heating on inside of his windows had ice on today, its carp build that does it. hopefully we will move soon! his sleeping pattern has gone again, firstly due to having to get up and shower and change in night and then friday night our dear neighbours had an all night party which really disturbed the whole house and put us all out of sorts. but on the whole his behaviour has beeen very good, i have stuck to my must be in room and stay there from 10pm, which has meant he may be awake but at least i get some sleep, and he has caught up on some sleep during days, being off school and weekend, you have to get in bed to keep warm!! i am pleased as last night i said at 9.45 thats it time to go up now he went up with very little complaint, okay so he stayed awake until 3am but without the violent outbursts i can cope a lot better. and today he has gone off to school without to much problem, only moaning about the cold, but so was i!

at home

well teen came home from school monday lunchtime, soil running down his legs. i felt parental guilt for forcing him to go to school when he said he was unwell because i was just trying to prove a point the he couldn't miss school whenever he felt like friday. off tuesday as well but seems to be getting better so fingers crossed for today!

still not gone

well hes been out and back 3 times now, i expect if he hadn't not gone friday and was behaving a bit better i would let him stay at home and dose up on medication to clear out his bowels but he really needs to do this evenings and weekend which he won't so i am still determined to get him to school, even through the soiling is very bad, coming through his trousers, hes changing at moment.

short lived relief

teen has just come back home. he says he has cramps and is soiled but i am determined after a trip to the bathroom he will be going to school to stay.

title

been thinking more and more about the title BADTEENMUM, i don't want people to read it as i am the mum of a bad teen, but its half of one and half a dozen of the other, my parenting skills need improving, especailly patience and teen needs to adjust/manage his temper