no lesson learnt

well teen slept until 3am then woke me up, he managed to stay raesonably quiet until about 7am but the became "bored" by 8am he is really winding the dog up and making so much noise, i decide to get ready early to take him out for day. but first i have to physically pull him away from dog who is going mental, although she has bittten teen before, normally sweetest natured but he likes to wind her up, he hasn't learnt his lesson. he reacts very badly to being taking by the shoulder, not hard, and lead out of dogs way. chairs get thrown, doors slammed feet banged. this is all before 8.30am on a saturday. no idea if we will get out now. i have to make myself scarce from him. the biggest stress to me again is the worry the neighbours will complain to the landlord, i really struggle with the idea of eviction, it makes me ill. problem is teen knows this so whenever i try to either discilpline him, get him to do anything, from getting dressed to cleaning his teeth to doing a chore, or go to bed, he kicks off, during the day i can easily ignore it but at night i worry about the little kids sleeping next door and the neighbours reaction, and i just can't let it continue, even through i know the best thing is to ignore it. i was doing very well at ignoring it but teen has discovered i can ignore him but not ignore it when he starts on either his sister or the dog so uses them to get to me, then when i lose it he goes all out on the noise offensive. i truely believe at 14 he should be able to control his behaviour better, in fact i think this is controlling behabviour, unlike the toddler temper tantrums it resembles which are just done out of frustration, teen often appears to act like this on purpose so he gets out of doing anything he doesn't want to do. its alright saying let him take responsibility for what he does, ie getting to school, cleaning his teeth etc but some things need to be done otherwise its not fare on others/dog etc. and it effects whole family life. why should every day in our house be dictated by teen because he thinks he can cause such a commotion he can get away with it. its driven the other kids to leave home at the first oppourtunity and when they need support now and move back like my daughter teen is still a major obstacle between me and teem.